I was reading the news online the other day as I am curious as to how things are, I saw a picture of a famous couple and it struck me as odd.
They were out in public with one of their children, at least I only saw one, and he was in grey sweat pants, boat shoes no socks and a tshirt. She was in a dress and make up and ready for the world.
This struck me as odd because she took care and concern from what I saw to get ready to face the world and he just threw some stuff on. Again, this was my perception from a picture.
However, it got me thinking. What are you (and I) doing at home doing this lock down? Are you staying comfortable, showering when it is time to go out only? are you presenting yourself to your spouse in your best or letting it all hang out and not caring about their opinion?
I have heard that many are not happy, divorce rates going up because of this lock down we are currently in.
Could it be that we got too comfortable forgot that out best should be for our spouse and not for everyone else?
Could it be that the daily shower, the attention to our appearance has been let go because we are at home after all. At home we should be ourselves we have no one to impress, right?
Well that is not the right thinking. The people at home are the ones you should most care about. The marriage you are in is to the most important person in your life.
Too many times we take them for granted and fail to take care of ourselves for them. We gussy up for the outside world so they will think well of us but the ones we are most connected too we fail to put any effort into.
Now I am growing a beard during this time but it is at my wife's behest that I am doing so, I went two weeks without shaving, she liked it but failed to say something till after I shaved so I am 4 weeks into a new beard because she likes the way it looks. Personally I would shave but for her I will endure.
What are you doing for your spouse?
Are you in ratty clothes, unkempt, unconcerned about what they think of you because your comfort, your convenience is more important than their opinion?
Gen_2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
They shall be one flesh. Worried about each other, sacrificing for each other, inconveniencing themselves for the other. Marriage is 100% from both parties. This means self care, cleanliness and appearance should be the best for them, not for the world. The dress up days should be at home not for the general public. They deserve your very best not second rate time and concern.
Now I get that we should be comfortable at home but make home a place both want to be, not a place where you totally forget any courtesy, any concern, any sense of decency for the other.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Eph 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
God loved us so much He gave us the very best He had, Himself, to die on the cross.
Can you do any less for your wife at home? Your best attitude, your best presentation, your best love, your best care and concern.
Love your wife as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church, have you died for your wife? So that she is the forefront of your thoughts? Not what you want to do, your "me time" your video games? Those are not bad things unless they keep you from caring for her. Unless they keep you from being the man she needs instead of the man she tolerates.
Pro 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Finding a wife is a good thing, a gift from God, but as with any gift it is all in how you appreciate it as to the full value you receive from it.This quarantine, lockdown whatever you want to call it should either be a wake up call or a joyous time. A wake up call if you are struggling with your spouse. Or a pure joy if you two are truly one flesh living together
What are you doing with your time together? is it your time to shine together, reacquaint, recover your love? or is it a time of struggle and strife?
Put yourself second for your spouse. Cook for them, clean for them, live for them, work for them, dress for them.
The order of things in your life should be God, Spouse, you, then everything else.
One day when the children are gone, retirement is here they will be all you have.
Now is the time to invest in a healthy relationship for when the struggles come again, the time apart comes again, build some fond memories, build some equity in each other.
They were out in public with one of their children, at least I only saw one, and he was in grey sweat pants, boat shoes no socks and a tshirt. She was in a dress and make up and ready for the world.
This struck me as odd because she took care and concern from what I saw to get ready to face the world and he just threw some stuff on. Again, this was my perception from a picture.
However, it got me thinking. What are you (and I) doing at home doing this lock down? Are you staying comfortable, showering when it is time to go out only? are you presenting yourself to your spouse in your best or letting it all hang out and not caring about their opinion?
I have heard that many are not happy, divorce rates going up because of this lock down we are currently in.
Could it be that we got too comfortable forgot that out best should be for our spouse and not for everyone else?
Could it be that the daily shower, the attention to our appearance has been let go because we are at home after all. At home we should be ourselves we have no one to impress, right?
Well that is not the right thinking. The people at home are the ones you should most care about. The marriage you are in is to the most important person in your life.
Too many times we take them for granted and fail to take care of ourselves for them. We gussy up for the outside world so they will think well of us but the ones we are most connected too we fail to put any effort into.
Now I am growing a beard during this time but it is at my wife's behest that I am doing so, I went two weeks without shaving, she liked it but failed to say something till after I shaved so I am 4 weeks into a new beard because she likes the way it looks. Personally I would shave but for her I will endure.
What are you doing for your spouse?
Are you in ratty clothes, unkempt, unconcerned about what they think of you because your comfort, your convenience is more important than their opinion?
Gen_2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
They shall be one flesh. Worried about each other, sacrificing for each other, inconveniencing themselves for the other. Marriage is 100% from both parties. This means self care, cleanliness and appearance should be the best for them, not for the world. The dress up days should be at home not for the general public. They deserve your very best not second rate time and concern.
Now I get that we should be comfortable at home but make home a place both want to be, not a place where you totally forget any courtesy, any concern, any sense of decency for the other.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Eph 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
God loved us so much He gave us the very best He had, Himself, to die on the cross.
Can you do any less for your wife at home? Your best attitude, your best presentation, your best love, your best care and concern.
Love your wife as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church, have you died for your wife? So that she is the forefront of your thoughts? Not what you want to do, your "me time" your video games? Those are not bad things unless they keep you from caring for her. Unless they keep you from being the man she needs instead of the man she tolerates.
Pro 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Finding a wife is a good thing, a gift from God, but as with any gift it is all in how you appreciate it as to the full value you receive from it.This quarantine, lockdown whatever you want to call it should either be a wake up call or a joyous time. A wake up call if you are struggling with your spouse. Or a pure joy if you two are truly one flesh living together
What are you doing with your time together? is it your time to shine together, reacquaint, recover your love? or is it a time of struggle and strife?
Put yourself second for your spouse. Cook for them, clean for them, live for them, work for them, dress for them.
The order of things in your life should be God, Spouse, you, then everything else.
One day when the children are gone, retirement is here they will be all you have.
Now is the time to invest in a healthy relationship for when the struggles come again, the time apart comes again, build some fond memories, build some equity in each other.
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