A month or so ago there was quite a stir when an actress said she submits to her husband as is her Christian duty. Of course there was a huge outcry about "be your own woman" and "no man tells me what to do" etc you know the crowd.
Then just the other day I heard a man talking telling his story on the radio and what he said really, really got to me. The man is the servant leader of the house. Yes we are to be the spiritual leaders, we are to love our wives as Christ loved His church. Christ gave His life, His All for His Bride. We are to do the same. We are to be willing to die to protect them from anyone and anything. This includes the children, family, himself etc. The Husband is bound by his marriage vows to protect, love, and honor the wife.
The man, the Husband is also to be the Lead Servant in the family. He is to set the tone for all. He is to love sacrificially, He is to provide monetarily, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally.
The dictionary lists Husband as:
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Ephesians 5:25-33KJV
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Now if you lead, truly lead, as a God fearing Christian man then there will be reverence from your wife. You will see that the example you set, the tone you set will make you special in her eyes.
There is a difference between pampering, spoiling your wife and being a spineless jellyfish. It is a fine line you must walk. It is a line that is hard to maintain. Too much and you are a tyrant, too little and you are a jellyfish, just right and you are in a loving happy marriage that will make you both happy, meet your potential, and set an example for others.
Lead your wife and your house by serving them. Cook dinner, do the dishes, give her a night off from those responsibilities.
Treat her to a day for just her: doing what she wants no grumbling, no shirking. Make it a point to "date" your wife. Don't let the spark die keep it aflame with actions and words.
God gave you your wife as a helpmeet, as a companion. To walk beside for all the days of your life. Make the journey as special for her as she will for you.
Then just the other day I heard a man talking telling his story on the radio and what he said really, really got to me. The man is the servant leader of the house. Yes we are to be the spiritual leaders, we are to love our wives as Christ loved His church. Christ gave His life, His All for His Bride. We are to do the same. We are to be willing to die to protect them from anyone and anything. This includes the children, family, himself etc. The Husband is bound by his marriage vows to protect, love, and honor the wife.
The man, the Husband is also to be the Lead Servant in the family. He is to set the tone for all. He is to love sacrificially, He is to provide monetarily, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally.
The dictionary lists Husband as:
hus·band
[huhz-buhnd]
noun
1.
2.
British . a manager.
3.
verb (used with object)
4.
to manage, especially with prudent economy.
5.
to use frugally; conserve: to husband one's resources.
When a man and a woman get married it is just the two of them, they stand alone in a ceremony and vow to be the all of the other.. No kids, no family just husband and wife. The husband is to protect, love, honor, and cherish his wife. She is to be his all.
The Husband is to lead.
He is not to be a dictator, he is not to be a tyrant. He is to be loving, kind, firm, constant, true, and temperate.
We have so many young men today who feel they must have it their way all the time, when in actuality the true man will know when to assert and when to acquiesce.
There will come a day when you will stand before God and give account for your leadership or lack thereof. You will answer for your household. You will answer for your influence or lack thereof in your household. You not your wife will be held accountable.
It is your job to pamper and spoil your wife to make her know at all times that she is your everything. She is your object of desire, your object of affection, your one and only.
The perspective of a woman is so very different than that of a man. She will see and know things that you would never think of, that is a resource you need to take advantage of. A smart man will talk to his wife and listen to her opinion.
Ephesians 5:25-33KJV
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Now if you lead, truly lead, as a God fearing Christian man then there will be reverence from your wife. You will see that the example you set, the tone you set will make you special in her eyes.
There is a difference between pampering, spoiling your wife and being a spineless jellyfish. It is a fine line you must walk. It is a line that is hard to maintain. Too much and you are a tyrant, too little and you are a jellyfish, just right and you are in a loving happy marriage that will make you both happy, meet your potential, and set an example for others.
Lead your wife and your house by serving them. Cook dinner, do the dishes, give her a night off from those responsibilities.
Treat her to a day for just her: doing what she wants no grumbling, no shirking. Make it a point to "date" your wife. Don't let the spark die keep it aflame with actions and words.
God gave you your wife as a helpmeet, as a companion. To walk beside for all the days of your life. Make the journey as special for her as she will for you.
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